I saw someone share an article on Facebook earlier today and I thought I’d give my response to it, mostly because the people commenting made me laugh and not for a good reason. Someone writes an article, gives their opinion, and all of a sudden they are the worst person in the world (just ask my buddy Shan Shariff).
If you want to read the article I’m referencing, you can find it here.
The article is written by a wife who talks about why her husband will always come before their children. Here are a few excerpts from this piece.
“The first year of our son’s life was the most difficult of our marriage to date and it is also the year I learned a very important lesson: My husband must always come before our children.”
First off, notice that she never said the words “my children aren’t important,” or “my children will receive far less attention than my husband.” She’s not trying to lessen the role of the wife and mother role in the home, she’s not trying to take us back to the 1950’s, but the amount of pissed off women in the comment section sure makes it seem that way.
Let me ask a simple question before I move on to another quote from this article. If this piece was written by a man instead of a woman and he talked about why his wife would always be more important than the kids, would we have as many pissed off comments? Or would people be nodding their heads like that’s the way it should be because it’s not the woman bowing to the man or [insert gasp here] making her husband important in the role of the home or in the role of a wife?
It’s just a question, answer it honestly. I don’t mind a debate here so don’t assume I’m trying to say something by asking a question. Should the husband make the wife more important than the kids but the wife shouldn’t do the same? Just trying to clarify.
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